Objectification refers to treating people more as objects with certain functions and ignoring their personality and dignity. When the materialization occurs, the materialized party no longer exists as a complete person and no longer has the original multiple values, but listens to the single value standard formulated after social comparison. My experiences, experiences, thoughts and feelings as the subject become irrelevant.

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When you have the following experiences and feelings, you may be in the process of being materialized:

• they seem to care only about your appearance, body, money, or abilities.
• you feel like they don’t really care about you or how you feel;
• you feel replaceable; As long as they can meet their needs, anyone can replace you and become their partner;
• you always feel anxious in a relationship because you don’t live up to his or her “nice woman/nice man” standards;
• you feel like you don’t have much dignity with them;
• they don’t care about your true likes, ideas and opinions. Even when you show them, they ignore them.
• they will often tag you, categorize you, or rate you;
• they will only come to you when they need you to meet one of their needs, such as having sex or emptying their shopping cart;
• when you hear them talking about their friends or colleagues, they talk more about their “USES” than their interactions and feelings;

I find these problems more or less present in my intimate relationships and even my own. But people don’t know much about the concept of objectification, they just think, “this phenomenon makes me unhappy,” but they don’t know why, so I wanted to do a book to get people to understand this phenomenon of objectification, and why I think objectification is bad in intimate relationships.

Under the theme of objectification, I want to discuss two typical forms of objectification.
Sexual objectification refers to the act of treating a partner merely as an object of Sexual desire; The other half no longer has a complete personality, but is seen as a body or a combination of body parts. In intimate relationships, sexual objectification of women makes women become emotional containers for men and subordinate; Sexual objectification of men makes men’s appearance a consumer product.
Self-objectification refers to thinking of yourself as an object. Because it is an object, its value does not come from its joys and sorrows, its loves and hates, its memories and its hometown. Its value comes only from some sort of social comparison.

Studies have shown that in intimate relationships, when men criticize women’s bodies in a mainstream way, women are more likely to be influenced by the voices objectifying women, feel less satisfied with their bodies, and think it’s normal to feel rejected by their partners if they’re “not good-looking.” In the long run, women’s mental health may be affected and their risk of mental illness, including anxiety, depression, body image disorders and eating disorders, may increase.
At the same time, objectification can cause people to lose sight of their self-worth in intimate relationships. When a partner objectifies us and values only certain functions of us, ignoring our inner experiences, thoughts and feelings, we feel that the other person is not interested in who we really are. It’s also easy to fall into self-doubt that our true selves aren’t good enough for each other to be loved.

So for the ubiquity of physicochemical phenomena, research suggests that they can be passed

• be alert to objectification and self-objectification
• practice self-acceptance and establish a sense of self-worth.
• be assertive.

And adjust the pattern of intimate relationships.

“A person is not a street sign that can be arbitrarily labeled as a judge; A man is more than a body that can be lost, preserved, or thrown away; Nor can one be imprisoned or represented by some old thought. You have to go through something with someone to really know that person. Each of us is a mystery. The more you become aware of yourself, the more interesting the enigma you become. The reward for seeking the truth is not the truth itself, but the miracle, the love.”

Reference
Eileen l. Zurbriggen & Laura r. Ramsey & Beth k. Jaworski (2011). Self-and partner-objectification in Romantic Relationships: Associations with Media Consumption
And Relationship Satisfaction
Do you love me because I am me, or because I meet your needs?
How does women’s body anxiety arise?
What does anxiety bring us?
Fang psychology (2018). Objectification, sexual objectification, and self-objectification